A Widows Tale

About A Widow’s Tale

Moving Forward

Ever get that frozen feeling? The one where you’re worried that IF you set a new goal for yourself or try to move forward you’ll fail because you’re in this all alone now? This happened to me a lot when I was recovering and it kept me feeling frozen and stuck.

Then I came across some really interesting tips from psychologists at Harvard. The first is that it helps to have a support system, primarily for accountability (well, duh!). But there is also a little formula that they have discovered that makes almost any goal more likely to succeed. It goes by the acronym SMART.

S is for specific. For instance, a goal of “I want to be happy.” Isn’t very specific. But a goal of “I want to take yoga classes twice a week because they make me happy” is.

M stands for measurable. This means if you decide to do yoga twice a week you put it on your calendar!

A is a reminder to make sure it’s an achievable goal. “I want to be happy” is too broad to be achievable in one step. “I want to take 2 yoga classes every week” is achievable. Each achieved goal gives you renewed courage for the next one so this is important!

R stands for realistic. It may seem counterintuitive, but choosing the change you most want to make—like losing weight or being happy—won’t bring as much success as choosing the change
 you’re most confident you’ll be able to make. Focus on sure bets, like eating an additional serving of fruit every day rather than losing weight. Especially when you want to make changes in lots of areas of your life, you want to build on small successes.

T reminds you to set a time commitment. “Starting tomorrow, I’ll add fruit to my breakfast every day for a month to get more fruit in my diet.” Time commitments are another great way to ensure your success.

The SMART technique has helped a lot of widows in the Recovery System succeed in making changes to their lives. It’s a proven system of breaking big goals down into smaller ones so that your success is assured.

Find out if the Widows Recovery System is right for you!



DSC_0207A Widows Tale helps widowed women recover from the death of their spouse and rebuild healthy lives.

It was developed with a grant from the National Storytelling Network and now offers both the one-on-one Widow’s Recovery System and the day-long A Widows Tale retreats.

“Great teacher and researcher.” Barbara, Asheville NC

“You’ll learn useful and effective coping tools to deal with stress and grief at the retreat.” Ida-Anne, NC

A Widows Tale retreats are fully sponsored events that create a sacred community where widowed women can share their stories of loss and love and learn new strategies for recovering from grief. This full-day event typically lasts from 9:30a.m.-4:30p.m. Retreats are facilitated by A Widows Tale founder Donna Marie Todd, a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist® and widow.

“What I liked was not only the sharing with other widows, which is SO wonderful, but also receiving the expertise of a widow leader. I would tell other widows to GO!!” Susan

The Widows Recovery System is designed for widows who are ready to move forward in rebuilding a new life. The system includes personal support calls, audio courses, and a recovery workbook with readings and activities to release grief and explore new personal possibility. Widows interested in this powerful, personalized recovery system can explore the program with Donna Marie during a free personal support call. Click here to book your free call.

“I knew I needed someone to help me, but you have done so much in just one call! Working with another widow is just what I needed.” Denice

“Donna Marie provided pragmatic ways to survive and begin to live again. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.” Robin, Nashville TN

Click the rose below to watch Donna Marie’s TEDx talk about harnessing the power of your story.

TEDx logo“A new program is offering support to widowed women. A Widows Tale was founded in 2014 with a grant from the National Storytelling Network by Donna Marie Todd, a Certified Grief Recovery Specialist®, magazine publisher, professional  storyteller and widow.” Mountain Express, October 2015

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“Donna Marie is an excellent presenter. The program is so well-designed.”
Donna Null

“It’s worth the time to do this when you want to move forward.”
Anne Anderson

“It’s excellent and empowering! Be open – try this!”
Retreat Participant Cappy Tosetti

The support you need to start building a sane, gentle and strong new life is right here, right now! Don’t wait! Click here to schedule a free personal support call. Help is just a call away!